GRACE: an act or instance of kindness.
Grace is one of those funny things you may expect from people, but forget about giving, especially to yourself. So, let's chat.
We've all been there. You've tried your best. You've given everything you have to your work, a project, an event, and yet, there's always someone there, standing in the shadows ready to tear it apart. Because....why? This is something I will never understand, personally, and one of the reasons I wanted to create GBE.
GBE was created to be a safe space where women entrepreneurs can come together to encourage and uplift one another in a non-competitive environment. And my main mantra for the group is that we LIVE by the idea of GIVING GRACE. Give grace to strangers, customers, and fellow Girl Bosses. So much so, that its included in our Pop Up Contracts. And let me tell you, this group of almost 100 women, do just that. And for that, I am forever grateful for this Girl Boss community!
We're all about being real over here at GBE. Now, let's get really real. As one of the people who run and plan these events, I've heard it all. We've had the pop ups ripped apart (yep, that was fun), we've had them praised as being the best event people have been a part of or attended. And I (very quickly) had to learn the hard way that I had to be able to care about the Girl Bosses who are a part of them , but to not over exert myself trying to please ALL because that just won't happen. In all reality, no matter what you do, there will always be someone that doesn't appreciate your efforts and to expect grace from everyone ALL of the time is probably not the smartest thing to do.
However, on the flip side, do WE offer grace to those around us? A lot of times we expect it but we don't give it. How often have you sat at the computer waiting for someone to respond to an email and gotten irritated that its been 48 hours with no reply? How many times have you not sold as much as you'd have liked to at a Pop Up and put the blame on the coordinators of the event? How many times have you not gotten into an event and talked trash? How many times has someone made plans and then cancelled and you are sitting there angry and irritated at that? There are so many scenarios...but I'll stop.
And how often do we give and show grace to ourselves? How often do we think its okay to take a week off, to be okay with the non-perfect Instagram feed, to just be? I don't think its very often. I think in general we don't do a good job of this, and then throw in trying to run a business and it gets even harder. You're trying to impress and to satisfy customers needs and a lot of times this can bring on the feeling of inadequacy of trying to do all and be all. Who REALLY cares if you Instagram feed is succinct and well put together? (I'm cringing because I care about it) Who cares if your blog post goes up a day late because you wanted to sleep an extra hour? Who cares if your email blast didn't go out on time because you spent the day with your kids instead? Give yourself some GRACE and know that you are enough! Your efforts are enough!
I think it's always very important to extend the example of grace to all those we come in contact with, especially ourselves. Because in all reality, we are all just trying our best. And I will hold myself to a standard of grace, not perfection.